Empowering Your Choices: The ability of Making a Decision about Intercourse without guilt

Understanding the Unsettling Feeling

Many individuals find themselves grappling with the internal conflict of saying “no” to intercourse. Dr. Clapp delves into the reasons behind this unsettling phenomenon, questioning whether societal expectations, cultural norms, or relationship dynamics play a role in creating an unnecessary obligation.

Breaking the Silence

It’s time to shatter the silence surrounding the right to decline. Regardless of gender, reasons such as fatigue, personal troubles, or simply not feeling prepared should never be accompanied by a sense of obligation. Dr. Clapp emphasizes the importance of open dialogue about this topic within society.

Empowering Your Choices

Confidence is key when it comes to intimate relationships. Dr. Clapp encourages individuals to recognize their strength and understand that saying “no” is a powerful choice. She highlights the transformative impact this empowerment can have on one’s pelvic health and overall well-being.

Quality Over Obligation

The psychological impact of engaging in intercourse when feeling hesitant or obligated can be profound. Dr. Clapp prompts readers to reflect on the importance of creating a positive environment for intimate moments, free from stress and discomfort.

Listening to Your Body

Drawing a parallel between the tension in your shoulders and neck when stressed, Dr. Clapp emphasizes the importance of paying attention to the signals your pelvic floor sends. Your body speaks volumes, and understanding its signs is crucial for maintaining a healthy pelvic floor.

Support and Guidance

No one should feel alone in navigating these choices. Dr. Clapp extends a supportive hand, encouraging those affected to reach out for guidance. Physical Therapy Specialists of Virginia is dedicated to providing the necessary support and resources to empower individuals in their decision-making.


In the journey towards a healthier pelvic floor, it’s imperative to recognize the power of your choices. Dr. Kira Clapp’s insights serve as a guiding light, urging individuals to prioritize their well-being and feel confident in saying “yes” or “no” without fear. Remember, you are not alone, and support is readily available for those seeking to enhance their quality of life.

Dr. Kira Clapp DPT/CLT/CDP/COS-C
Pelvic and Lymphedema Specialist

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